right before rain
No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.
It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.
Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.
I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.
Flawless positivity.
Listen.
I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.
This applies to your relationship with yourself.
If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.
You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.
All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.
So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.
I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.
You can’t hate yourself into being happy.
I don’t remember where I read this but it literally changed my life and how I approach growth and personal development. It can be hard to keep in mind sometimes, but it puts it in a way that’s hard to argue with.
The most dangerous flightless bird in Australia is sitting under a beach umbrella stealing grapes.
It is a lovely day in Australia, and you are a horrible cassowary.
I love the reference, but calling a cassowary horrible is redundant. Like saying, “a feline cat” or, “a boneless slug.” It’s an inherent quality necessary to be a cassowary that cannot change.
unrestrained summer fun
A quick translation:
Dude: OK, guys, let’s assign the disasters. Hum, tsunami. Who wants the tsunami?
2004: Yeah, I’ll have the tsunami.
Dude: OK, 2004 has the tsunami. 2012, do you still want the asteroid?
2012: Nah, no need.
Dude: Cool, let’s schedule that for 2030. OK, 2020, I have-
2020: FIRES.
Dude: OK, we can do fires, no problem-
2020: NUCLEAR TENSION.
Dude: Fires and… nuclear tension?
2020: PANDEMIC.
Dude: 2020, you can’t just- just have EVERYTHING-
2020: KOBE BRYANT DIES IN A HELICOPTER ACCIDENT.
1986: Wh-who’s Kobe Bryant?
1347: Heli-what?
Dude: So, you’re asking for fires, nuclear tension, a pandemic AND the death of basketball legend in your year!?
2020: TILL MARCH.
Dude: C’mon. Guys, help me with this.
1986: I would say something, but… CHERNOBYL! Oops, am I right?
2014: At least you still have the twin towers.
2000: Wait, what do you mean?
1347: I agree that 2020 is pushing it-
1945: YOU’RE LITERALLY- You’re the high point of the Bubonic plague!
1347: Oh, much apologies, Sir TWO ATONIC BOMBS!
1945: It’s ATOMIC, you f*ing medieval-
1347: Who are you calling medieval, G.I. Joe. Go play with your-
1945: Here we go again-
2000: Now, seriously, what-
1: Y’all want BREAD?!
1347, with a funny accent: Look at me! I have ME.DI.CI.NE.
This is pure gold
I’ve just discovered my new favorite painter, Vittorio Reggianini - those smarter than myself probably already know of him as an Italian painter from the 1800s who made satin look even satiny-er than satin. I just cannot get over how much he loved painting women who were NOT. HAVING. A. MAN’S. SHIT.
But there was one hottie that everyone seemed to like, and I can’t blame them…
Vittorio knows what the ladies like.
I love this. Vittorio is throwing some not-so-subtle shade on the misogyny of the era in that last one. Around that time, mass market printing was finally a thing, and people wrote the hell out of some novels, especially fiction. And the people who read the novels were mostly women, because they had somewhat more time on their hands. Middle and upper class men decided they were above reading. They frequently criticized the women for reading novels, saying it was going to corrupt their brains and turn them all into anarchists and lesbians. (Which wasn’t entirely untrue, lots of subversive and queer stuff was distributed in novel form.)
So that last painting is a dude getting over himself and the prejudices of the time and sharing an interest with the ladies, which is infinitely hotter than a dude invading personal space and looming over you like in several of those other paintings.
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50 cliché tropes and prompts
It’s my first prompt list! Thank you to my followers for helping. Credit not needed but please don’t repost. Feel free to link back to the list! These may be cliche but I love them.
- There’s people chasing us and I pulled you into the alley with me and wow you’re close
- Your shirt/jumper was in the laundry pile and I couldn’t help but steal it
- I’m dying and I’m confessing my love for you
- Kissing in the rain and getting soaked before running inside laughing
- Playing with their hair while their head’s in your lap.
- Jolting awake after a nightmare and being comforted
- “Good morning, beautiful/handsome”
- Hands brushing unexpectedly
- There’s only one bed and we sleep as far away as possible from each other but wake up cuddling
- You confessed your feelings and we’re about to kiss but we get interrupted
- Secret relationship
- We dated in high school but then you moved away but now you’re back in town
- Both going to grab the same thing and touching hands, then making eye contact.
- We’re roommates but we’re falling for each other
- Drunkenly confessing feelings
- I need a date for this wedding
- “I think I’m in love with you.”
- Fake dating AU
- Blurting out a confession of love
- You’re in a coma and I confess all my feelings only for you to wake up
- Blind date set up by friends
- You’re my new bodyguard and you’re cute.
- “Just tell why you did it!” “Because I’m in love with you, okay!”
- You’re my ex but I think I still have feelings for you
- Wrapping arms around them when they make breakfast
- Cuddling in comfortable silence before murmuring “I love you”
- Help me I’m being hit on at a bar please be my fake boyfriend for a second
- We literally ran into each other
- You’re leaving for something dangerous and I can’t help but kiss you
- Painting the house that ends in a paint fight and giggles
- “You’ve got something on your lip, here let me.”
- A soft smile before leaning in for a kiss
- Everyone thinks I should stay away from you because you’re dangerous
- Spin the bottle
- “Do you trust me?”
- Friends with benefits and both people catching feelings.
- We’re dating and I didn’t know you were a mobster/biker
- Everyone thinks we’re already dating, but we’re just best friends- oh wait
- Having a bad day and the other noticing
- “You saved my life.”
- Overhearing they have feelings for you
- I’m going to save you from the terrible date you’re having
- Taking care of the other when sick or injured
- I’m your new neighbour and I got locked out, help!
- You took a bullet for me
- Argument leading to kissing/sex
- “I’ve been in love with you for years.”
- I called you at 2am because I need you
- You caught me doing something dangerous and flipped out
- I’m scared but won’t admit it so you take my hand
How Does Your Muse React/Feel When…
😇- They are given praise
😰- They get scolded
🙇- They meet someone new and first impressions are good
👺- They meet someone new and first impressions are bad
🙌- They see their best friend
👿- They see their worst enemy
☺️- They see a friend
💅- They see a rival
❣️- They see their crush
♥️- They see their boy/girlfriend
💍- They see their spouse
🚸- They see their children
👪- They see their family (specify if desired)
💮- They get asked to hang out
💐- They get asked out on a date
💔- They get stood up/broken up with
💎- They win a huge reward
🎁- They are given a gift they like
💣- They are given a gift they dislike
🎎- They find a long lost possession of theirs
💵- They see something on sale for a bargain price
🗑- They see something that is being given away for free
📍- They narrowly escape a perilous situation
🚪- They hear someone knock on their door
📱- Someone asks to borrow their phone
some aesthetic words for your fic title! (pt.1)
- alexithymia (n) the inability to express your feelings
- cosmogyral (adj): whirling around the universe
- euneirophrenia (n): the peace of mind that comes from having pleasant dreams
- scintila (n); a tiny, brilliant flash; a small thing; a barely visible trait
- anagapesis(n): no longer have any feelings for one you once loved
- mangata (n); the reflection of moon on water
- serendipity (n); finding luck without even looking for it
- selenophile (n) the person who loves the moon
- nyctophilia (n); love for darkness or nght, finding relax and comfort in the darkness
- drapetomania(n); an overwhelming urge to run away
- gumusservi (n): moonlight shining on water
- clinomania (n); the excessive desire to stay in your bed
- basorexia (n); the overwhelming desire to kiss
- solivagant (adj) wandering alone
- sehnsucht (n): the inconsolable longing in the human heart for we know not what, a yearningfor far, familiar, non- earthy land one can identify as one’s home
- redamancy (n); the act of loving one who loves you, a love returned in full
- hireath (n); a home sickness to a home which you cannot return, a home which maybe never was, the nostalgia, the yearning, the grieve for the lost places of your past
- alamort (adj) : half- dead of exhaustion
- viridity (adj): naive innocent
- numinous (adj): describing an experience which makes you fearful yet fascinated, awed yet attracted, the powerful personal feeling of being overwhelmed and inspired
ANIMATED MOVIES TURNED/TURNING 20 YEARS IN 2020
The Tigger Movie (February 11th, 2000)
An Extremely Goofy Movie (February 29th, 2000)
The Road to El Dorado (March 31st, 2000)
Dinosaur (May 19th, 2000)
Titan A.E. (June 16th, 2000)
Chicken Run (June 21st, 2000)
Pokemon 3: The Movie (July 8th, 2000)
The Little Mermaid 2: Return to the Sea (September 19th, 2000)
Scooby Doo and the Alien Invaders (October 3rd, 2000)
Help! I’m A Fish (October 6th, 2000)
Joseph: King of Dreams (November 7th, 2000)
Rugrats in Paris: The Movie (November 17th, 2000)
The Land Before Time 7: The Stone of Cold Fire (December 5th, 2000)
Batman Beyond: Return of the Joker (December 12th, 2000)
The Emperor’s New Groove (December 15th, 2000)
Pokemon: Mewtwo Returns (December 30th, 2000)
You telling me these all came out in the same year? We were fucking spoiled.
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